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From: Aaron Wolf <wolftune@riseup.net>
To: libreplanet-discuss <libreplanet-discuss@libreplanet.org>
Subject: Diplomatic activism [was Re: Is Stallman nuts?]
Date: Wed, 18 Sep 2019 17:37:21 -0700	[thread overview]
Message-ID: <3d7ff306-d647-fe96-735b-42595fea92bf@riseup.net> (raw)
In-Reply-To: <20190919012816.8fdf63bbe65433bd39ead40f@minifree.org>

The "thug" style of activists can be so extreme and closed-minded that
they lash out at fellow activists for merely *proposing* diplomacy. Most
don't recognize that their thuggishness is itself the most dangerous
liability, undermining solidarity and credibility. These days, it's
sometimes hard to tell the difference between a bad-faith thug / troll /
bot and a good-faith but thuggish activist.

I'll emphasize what I said before about the need for Restorative Justice
approaches and attitudes.

And a great resource for diplomatic activism:
http://loveandradio.org/2014/02/the-silver-dollar/
and follow up http://loveandradio.org/2017/02/how-to-argue/

Thanks for emphasizing the language of diplomacy. I find that useful and
will embrace that term going forward.

On 2019-09-18 5:28 p.m., Leah Rowe via libreplanet-discuss wrote:
> 
> there is a hidden 4th item on that bullet point list:
> * empathy. understanding what the other is thinking, and seeing where
> they are coming from. "know your enemy"
> 
> Many activists fail on this aspect. They fail to understand what
> they're opposing.
> 
> On Thu, 19 Sep 2019 01:25:16 +0100 Leah Rowe
> <info@minifree.org> wrote:
> 
>>
>> there are two types of equality activist:
>> * diplomat
>> * thug
>>
>> I'm of the diplomatic variety. The ones that you had a negative
>> experience with are the thug type.
>>
>> It's the diplomatic ones that make the real change. People like me,
>> who do real work rather than just shouting on twitter or on mailing
>> lists.
>>
>> Real work involves:
>> * befriending people, even if you despise them
>> * listening to people
>> * making them realize that you're not a threat
>>
>> This is what I mean by diplomacy. You simply make friends, and make
>> people see your point of view.
>>
>> A diplomat does their best to convince people and to make allies.
>>
>> By comparison, the thug type simply complains and alienates people.
>>
>> On Tue, 17 Sep 2019 23:35:00 -0500
>> quiliro@riseup.net wrote:
>>
>>> On Tue, September 17, 2019 7:59 pm, Leah Rowe wrote:
>>>>
>>>> meritocracy is silly in terms of advancing equality, because it
>>>> implies an equal playing field - nothing is further from the truth
>>>>
>>>> women (and LGBT people, and black people etc) are routinely
>>>> descriminated against, and less likely to get involved in tech.
>>>>
>>>> we need to spend more effort bringing such people into the
>>>> movement. since you know, they actually form at least half the
>>>> planet and have the same intelligence/potential.
>>>>
>>>> I say this as an LGBT person.
>>>>
>>>> If you have the choice between a more qualified male candidate and
>>>> less qualified female candidate, hire the female candidate - and
>>>> train/educate her. it's important.
>>>
>>> I do have a priority to support these groups. But I have decided to
>>> stop support for women. I have been attacked by them 3 times because
>>> I speak my mind out. (I know I should speak less.) The other groups
>>> have taken my opinions as such, not as personal attacks. A couple
>>> groups that defend women's rights have attacked me instead of
>>> exchanging ideas and accepting that I do not have to do as they wish
>>> unless they convince me. So I have decided to remove my support for
>>> women unless one of these groups proves they deserve my support
>>> again by being reciprocal in supporting my own values and the
>>> people in our group instead of attacking us.
>>>
>>>
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>>
>> -- 
>> Leah Rowe <info@minifree.org>
>> Company Director & Libreboot developer
>> https://minifree.org/ https://libreboot.org/
>>
>> Do you know you have rights?
>> The right to privacy, free speech, the right to read
>> and the right to learn. The right not to be spied on
>> and censored by the government.
>>
>> Defend freedom. Use free (free as in freedom) software.
>> Spread freedom. Tell everyone you know about it!
>> https://www.gnu.org/philosophy/free-sw.html
>>
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  reply	other threads:[~2019-09-19  0:37 UTC|newest]

Thread overview: 79+ messages / expand[flat|nested]  mbox.gz  Atom feed  top
2019-09-15 17:35 Is Stallman nuts? MARY-ANNE WOLF
2019-09-15 18:01 ` lily via libreplanet-discuss
2019-09-15 18:37 ` Thomas Lord
2019-09-15 20:20   ` Adrienne G. Thompson
2019-09-15 20:34     ` Adrienne G. Thompson
2019-09-15 20:45     ` Thomas Lord
2019-09-15 20:59       ` Adrienne G. Thompson
2019-09-16  0:53     ` No, Stallman isn't "nuts" nor does he deserve less freedom of speech J.B. Nicholson
2019-09-16  1:47       ` Steven Sullam
2019-09-16  2:35         ` Taking credit for your own choices and free software is neither anti-commercial nor anti-profit J.B. Nicholson
2019-09-16 10:19         ` No, Stallman isn't "nuts" nor does he deserve less freedom of speech Leah Rowe via libreplanet-discuss
2019-09-16 10:29           ` Leah Rowe via libreplanet-discuss
2019-09-16 10:33             ` Leah Rowe via libreplanet-discuss
2019-09-16 14:41               ` Caleb Herbert
2019-09-16 16:40               ` 'smee via libreplanet-discuss
2019-09-16  2:07       ` Eric Schultz
2019-09-17  0:18         ` quiliro
2019-09-17  6:50         ` Ole Aamot
2019-09-16 15:03       ` Adrienne G. Thompson
2019-09-20 17:26     ` Is Stallman nuts? Will Hill
2019-09-20 18:26       ` Adrienne G. Thompson
2019-09-21 22:33         ` Leah Rowe via libreplanet-discuss
2019-09-15 18:37 ` C. Cossé
2019-09-15 20:41   ` Leah Rowe via libreplanet-discuss
2019-09-15 18:46 ` Michael Downey
2019-09-15 19:40   ` MARY-ANNE WOLF
2019-09-15 19:54     ` Federico klez Culloca
2019-09-15 20:30     ` TechLibre
2019-09-15 20:37       ` Betsy Garrett
2019-09-15 20:44         ` Leah Rowe via libreplanet-discuss
2019-09-15 20:49         ` TechLibre
2019-09-15 20:53         ` Andrew Luke Nesbit
2019-09-15 19:34 ` TechLibre
2019-09-15 19:41 ` Robert Call (Bob)
2019-09-15 20:30 ` Thomas Lord
2019-09-15 22:14 ` Mark Phelan
2019-09-16 11:54 ` Patrick 'P. J.' McDermott
2019-09-16 14:54   ` Caleb Herbert
2019-09-16 16:36     ` Patrick 'P. J.' McDermott
2019-09-16 21:11       ` Adrienne G. Thompson
2019-09-16 17:49     ` Deb Nicholson
2019-09-16 20:08       ` alimiracle
2019-09-17 13:50 ` quiliro
2019-09-17 14:22   ` Adrienne G. Thompson
2019-09-17 17:04     ` Ole Aamot
2019-09-17 18:03       ` quiliro
2019-09-17 18:29         ` Danny Spitzberg
2019-09-17 19:35           ` 'smee via libreplanet-discuss
2019-09-17 20:37           ` quiliro
2019-09-22  3:47           ` Richard Stallman
2019-09-17 18:47         ` lily via libreplanet-discuss
2019-09-17 19:13           ` Thomas Lord
2019-09-17 19:23           ` Aaron Wolf
2019-09-17 21:13             ` Caleb Herbert
2019-09-17 23:29               ` A. Mani
2019-09-19  4:34             ` Richard Stallman
2019-09-19 11:52               ` A. Mani
2019-09-19 14:32                 ` Adrienne G. Thompson
2019-09-20  4:47                   ` Richard Stallman
2019-09-18  5:30           ` Joel Holder
2019-09-17 19:22       ` Adrienne G. Thompson
2019-09-17 20:27     ` quiliro
2019-09-18  0:00       ` Leah Rowe via libreplanet-discuss
2019-09-18  0:03         ` Leah Rowe via libreplanet-discuss
2019-09-18  0:04           ` Leah Rowe via libreplanet-discuss
2019-09-18  0:23       ` Caleb Herbert
2019-09-18  0:59     ` Leah Rowe via libreplanet-discuss
2019-09-18  1:12       ` Adrienne G. Thompson
2019-09-18  4:35       ` quiliro
2019-09-18  5:28         ` Isaac David
2019-09-18 15:42           ` Caleb Herbert
2019-09-18 23:13             ` Leah Rowe via libreplanet-discuss
2019-09-19  1:57               ` Caleb Herbert
2019-09-19  0:25         ` Leah Rowe via libreplanet-discuss
2019-09-19  0:28           ` Leah Rowe via libreplanet-discuss
2019-09-19  0:37             ` Aaron Wolf [this message]
2019-09-21 19:52               ` Diplomatic activism [was Re: Is Stallman nuts?] Leah Rowe via libreplanet-discuss
2019-09-18 23:44       ` Is Stallman nuts? Adrienne G. Thompson
2019-09-19  0:31         ` Leah Rowe via libreplanet-discuss

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